Bullying Behaviors Chart

Mild
Moderate
Severe
Physical Agression
  • Pushing
  • Shoving
  • Spitting
  • Kicking
  • Hitting
  • Defacing Property
  • Stealing
  • Physical acts that are demaning and humiliating, but not bodily harmful. (e.g., de-panting)
  • Locking in a closed or confined space
  • Physical violence against family or friends
  • Threatening with a weapons
  • Inflicting bodily harm
Social Alienation
  • Gossiping
  • Embarrassing
  • Setting up to look foolish
  • Spreading rumors about
  • Ethnic slurs
  • Setting up to take the blame
  • Publicly humiliating (e.g., revealing personal information)
  • Excluding from group
  • Social rejection
  • Maliciously excluding
  • Manipulating social order to achieve rejection
  • Malicious rumor-mongoring
  • Threatening with total isolation by peer group
Verbal Aggression
  • Mocking
  • Name calling
  • Dirty looks
  • Taunting
  • Teasing about clothing or possessions
  • Teasing about appearance
  • Intimidating telephone calls
  • Verbal threats of aggression against property or possessions
  • Verbal threats of violence or of inflicting bodily harm
Intimidation
  • Threatening to reveal personal information
  • Graffiti
  • Publicly challenging to do something
  • Defacing property or clothing
  • Playing a dirty trick
  • Taking possesions(e.g., lunch, clothing, toys..)
  • Extortion
  • Sexual or racial taunting
  • Threats of using coercion against families and friends
  • Coercion
  • Threatening with weapon

 

To help us understand bullies and what to think about, I found the following information very helpful. This is taken from a book titled Bully-Proofing Your School. By Carla Garrity, Kathryn Jens and others. Remember both boys and girls can be bullies. In the give and take relationships there will be some disagreement and some confrontation. That is to be expected. Some actions can be handled one-on-one bby the children themselves. These are classified as "mild" behaviors. Other situations, classified as "moderate" to "severe" behaviors require some intervention. In the coming days the teachers, parent volunteers, and kid's Club staff will continue to educate the children and intervene when that is deemed necessary. As always, your support and help are much appreciated.

 

Recognizing the Difference
Normal Peer Conflict
Bullying
Equal power or friends Imbalance of power, not friends
Happens occasionaly Repeated negative actions
Accidental Purposeful
Not serious Serious with threat of physical or emotional harm
Equal emotional reaction Strong emotional reaction from victim and little or no emotional reaction from bully
Not seeking power or attention Seeking power, control, or material things
Not trying to get something Attempt to gain material things or power
Remorse- will take responsibility No remorse- blames victim
Effort to solve problems No effort to solve problems

 

The children who are targeted by bullies often have some identifiable characteristics too. In thinking of passive or provacative victims, these children may:

  • be isolated or alone during much of the school day
  • be anxious, insecure, and lacking in social skills
  • be physically weak and therefore unable to defend for themselves;
  • cry easily, yeild when bullied, and unable to stick up for themselves;
  • may have suffered past abuse or traumatization;
  • may have learning disorder that compromises their ability to process and respond to social interactional cues;
  • may be easily emotionally aroused, or
  • may tend to maintain the conflict and lose with frustration and distress.